What Is a Healthy Boundary?

Healthy Boundaries

What is a Boundary?

A boundary is the periphery of the energetic field that emanates from our center and orients us in the world in relationship to other beings, things and situations.

When our boundaries are intact we feel a sense of well-being, autonomy and an "I am-ness."

"Having a container that has no leaks (clear boundaries) allows for more of the experience to be felt", writes Saida Desilets in her book Emergence of the Sensual Woman. "When our boundaries have been crashed into by another, or if we fail to consciously set our own boundaries, we can become uprooted from our center, unsettled in our own skin, stuck in our energy, less potent and powerful".

Boundaries are not walls

Often boundaries are mistakenly thought of as separating us from each other. The truth is, however, that when we learn how to have healthy and distinctive boundaries, we can be more truly present with each other, and more authentically connected. Identifying the meaning of having authentic boundaries, we're more naturally motivated to create them. Remember, boundaries are not walls meant to keep others out, they are defining parameters that allow us to have more of who we authentically are.

When I teach, present or facilitate group process, I notice that the way I relate to the group is strongly influenced by my ability to stay conscious of my boundary. Without a sense of my own boundary I'll often feel unsure of being able to hold the space for the group, most likely because I am not even really holding the space for myself.

When first I hold the space for me, by consciously creating my own boundary however, there's an instant sense of coming home in my own body. This connection to myself is what it means to be in my power. From this place I can hold a reverent and dynamic space for others, inspiring them to trust in my leadership.

Notice:
Notice in this moment if you have a sense of yourself beyond your own physical body.

If you do, how far does your energetic body extend in this moment in a 360 degree radius around you. This tells you how much space your taking up and letting others know you need and deserve.

If you don't, how is this showing up in your relationships with others? Do you feel seen, heard and respected? A lack of boundaries can often result in lack of acknowledgment by those around you.
Ask yourself these questions and notice.

In my next few posts I'll share more about having healthy, authentic, felt sense boundaries so that your relationships flourish and you feel safe in your own body.

 

Asian Women Compose a Powerful Market

Our world has changed in many ways. This is clearly understood when one considers the rising phenomena of Asian women in the markets of the world. A basic element to keep in mind is that Asian women are an important part of the "melting pot" of ethnic groups. Each group in the pot definitely has its own cultural heritage which is guarded jealously. However, when a large segment of the world today thinks about what exactly defines the modern woman, it is interesting to wonder what is commonly imagined? When marketers think of this same question, how should they act in order to attract this very sophisticated and well-educated customer to retain her loyalty?

First, it is true that Asian women are more empowered than ever before in history. These women live in the most rapidly growing consumer market in the world today. In fact, the distribution of wealth in Asian nations is very unique. China, Japan, and India's GDP places them in the top five richest economies of the world. However, in nations like Pakistan or Afghanistan there exists extreme poverty, civil unrest, and shockingly high infant mortality rates. Therefore, this obvious discrepancy in consumer power influences these women's choices in the area of purchasing. It all depends upon which end of the social and national spectrum she comes from.

Despite the huge discrepancy just noted, Asian women in general continue to enjoy more empowerment in the global marketplace today than what was ever once thought possible. The women of Asia also work in more fair economic environments than many of their western counterparts. It may be a surprise, but the gap between women's income and men's is closing more swiftly in Asia than it is in the West. There is an old Chinese proverb which says: "Women hold up half the sky." It should still be understood that many women desire to fulfill their traditional role in the home as wives and mothers. This is not necessarily something that these women are giving up per se. Even so, Asian women continue to enjoy more disposable income than ever before. Some statistics indicate that they spend seven times the amount of money each year than Asian men.

The shopping behavior of these women appears to be slightly different from her Western "sister" as well. Shopping is a social activity for many, and the goal is not necessarily to make a purchase. Group shopping is one of the Asian woman's primary hobbies. More than twenty percent of women go shopping every weekend without the expectation of a purchase. The women of Asia are also avid readers of product information on product labels. There is a degree of inherent cynicism about traditional advertising methods. So these women tend to research their purchases very thoroughly.

These thrifty women are spending even more time online. Fifty three percent of her media consumption takes place over the internet. The Asian woman outnumbers North American women more than two-to-one when it comes to time spent online. She spends about twenty four hours a month in this activity alone. Asian women, like most women around the world, are very busy people. She has much less spare time these days for her favorite activity- namely, shopping! She must balance her time carefully between the mall and the hours over the internet. These women are spending more money on herself, in addition to more family focused purchases, than ever before. As she assumes control of the household budget, her purchases include more consumer electronics, travel, and banking items. On top of everything else, this kind of woman places more attention on her beauty routine than even the Western woman. So, in addition to Asian women being some of the most educated and intelligent people in the world, beauty remains a very important asset to her personal profile.

The Asian woman has embraced a lofty role in her family, her society, and the global market of the twenty first century. There is much which is demanded of her by her loved ones, and perhaps even more from herself! The woman of Asia is the most essential component in any enterprise involving the Eastern style household. She has come a long way in a short space of time... and she deserves respect!

Three Simple Steps to Achieving Your Properly Fitted Ladies Bra

In recent articles we were able to establish whether to go or not to go for bra measurement. It was simple; any woman including young girls who realise their bust has developed beyond wearing a camisole or cropped top needs more support.

This is mostly due to the back of the bra being too loose or cup size being too small. Most women would love to wear properly fitted bras, but not aware of what to look for or not familiar with the benefits. Achieving this is not as difficult as it often appears to be. Hence, we have suggested three simple steps to make it as easy as possible for one to achieve.

Step 1 Start by wearing your most fitting bra if possible, without a top on.

 Measure your back size in centimetres for accuracy, by placing a tape measure all around your body just beneath your bust. Starting from the gap in between your bust and finishing there. Make sure the tape measure is parallel and lies firmly flat against you.

Below is a measurement guide for your back size in a bra should be:

60cm-64cm 28 back 75cm-79cm 34 back

65cm-69cm 30 back 80cm-84cm 36 back

70cm-74cm 32 back 85cm-89cm 38 back

If your measurement is above 89cm, simply add on a back size of an additional 4cms following the pattern above and if your measurement falls outside any of the above, take the lower back size.

In following above, after fastening your bra on the loosest or middle hook (this will enable you to tighten the back which will stretch after several washes and wear), the band should be firm and parallel around your body. If your band is too loose, go down a band size. If too tight, go up a size.

Step 2 Place your busts into the cups of the bra which should fill out the cups completely.

 Where your busts may be of different cup sizes which is perfectly normal, use the bigger bust for measurement (the cup with the smaller bust may be filled out with a bra padding if desired).

If the wires of your bra dig into your busts, your busts overlap the cups or the cups are wrinkled only at the tip, you probably need to go up a cup size. This will also apply where the front of your bra where the gap in between the cups of your bra sits away from you. Also, if your bra cups are wrinkled in most parts due to the cups being too big, you would need to go down a cup size.

Step 3 involves stepping back and considering the final outcome below:

Start off by lifting up your arms to ensure the wires and cradle which is the band that runs under the bra cups does not lift away but sits firmly on you. Then check the straps of your bra do not dig into your shoulders. You may adjust this by loosening the straps. Hence, if you tightened the straps mainly to support your busts, your back size is probably too big and you need to go down a size.

The final check should be based on your personal judgment. At the end of it all, it's all about you and your personal opinion should have the final say!

Mind how you go!

Older Women, Younger Men, and our Fascination with Them

There's a reason Sex and the City is so popular. Women everywhere are learning to celebrate being single and to stop judging themselves on the nature of their marital status. This new trend is fairly recent, but being single has finally become a distinction to be proud of. That's not to say that women in committed relationships are missing out on this experience (we've all been single at some point), but whether you're currently part of a couple or not, being single is no longer equated with being desperate, nor do single women rush to the altar at the first prospect of a long-term relationship.

There are, of course, the classic reasons while single women should rejoice: you don't have to fight for remote control ownership, nor do you have to wash smelly socks and smellier underwear. You can control your own finances, and if you want to go on a shopping spree, you don't have to hide the receipts and the clothes in the back of the closet. You can hog the bed, and all the covers. You can drool over Hugh Jackman and Johnny Depp without worrying about making anyone jealous. And you don't have to fake an orgasm. Ever.

But there has to be more to it than that. What about the freedom of being unattached? Single women can go out with whomever they want, as often as they want, for as long as they want. And we're not even necessarily talking about men. They can hang out with their girlfriends every night 'till three in the morning without having to explain themselves when they get home.

And yes, there is the freedom to date as well, and the ability to enjoy the experience. Being careful and safe is still at the top of a single woman's list of priorities, but that doesn't mean she can't have a blast. She can have dinner with a different charming man every weekend, or (lets face it), jump into bed with him, only to dish about the experience with her girlfriends the next day.

And for those of us who are in happy committed relationships, there's always the thrill of hearing about the latest romantic mishaps from our single pals. We can always count on our single friends to brighten our days with their tales of romantic woe or incredible amorous adventures.

A single woman in today's society must possess courage: the courage to go out there, have her heart broken, then do it all over again. She has the freedom to be independent, to choose, and to experiment. And when she does find the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with, she'll have a wealth of knowledge to aid her in making that relationship last.

A Woman's Strategy to Holiday Stacking - You Can Maintain Your Holiday Budget

Indeed, I guess you are wondering what "holiday stacking" is, but it really is a very simple concept to understand once you hear the definition. In fact, I just bet that you've done a little holiday stacking yourself. Holiday Stacking is when you try to take a specific holiday and match it up with anniversaries, birthdays, and other get-together-obligations that you have with your friends and family.

Not long ago, I was discussing this with a gal and she explained that her friend's mom had purposely scheduled Mother's Day at her house which happened to coincide with two birthdays and an anniversary, which were all within a five day period.

This is the ultimate holiday stacking mother. And if the event wasn't 100% stellar, no one could complain because after all it was Mother's Day, and she was a mother hosting the party. This meant that she did not have to travel to her daughter's birthday, or her friend's birthday party or go to an anniversary party which was two states away. In other words, she kept everyone in her family and all her friends happy by getting them all together at her house and killing multiple birds with one stone.

But there is even more of a method to her madness because she was maintaining her travel budget considering the high fuel costs. In this way rather than going to several different events, and then trying to make excuses for not attending the others, she could stay at home and save the fuel and the airline fares. If you ask me I think this holiday stacking venue is a totally great strategy for saving money. After all during the Mother's Day weekend of 2011 the fuel prices were over four dollars per gallon.

In this case she was able to bring everyone to her house and have them pay for their own fuel, and be done with it having done her civic duty for holiday get-togethers for at least half of the year. Holiday Stacking is something that you might consider yourself if you are trying to stay on budget and still get your family together as is customarily the tradition.

If you do it just right, and have a specific plan put together - everyone will be happy, and you don't have to dream up any silly excuses why you couldn't attend any specific event. Indeed I hope you will please consider all this and think on it. If you have any other holiday stacking comments, questions, or experiences then please shoot me an e-mail.

 

Why It Takes a Woman So Long to Get Dressed in the Morning

If one were to investigate how long it takes for a woman to get dressed in the morning versus the amount of time it takes for a man to get dressed, he would be astonished at the results. It takes a woman at least double the amount of time that it takes men to get dresses. What is it about women that they can spend close to an hour every morning making sure that they look put together to face the world. Do women have so many more body parts to cover that it takes them so much longer?

The answer to this is simple. Women are much more conscious on how the outside would perceives their appearance than men. Their self esteem depends on it. A woman who feels she is ugly and unattractive will have a much lower self image than one who feels she is a stunning model. Therefore, women go to great lengths to make sure they buy everything they need that will enhance their appearance. She spends a ridiculous amount of time in front of the mirror to make sure she looks perfect.

When she wakes up in the morning, it takes a woman a good ten to fifteen minutes deciding what to wear that day. Although, she may have plenty to choose from, she is not necessarily in the mood of wearing half of them. After she finally decides which outfit she will wear, she has to pick out a pair of shoes that goes best with it. When she picks the shoes she goes to her drawer to put on a pair of socks, only to discover that it has huge hole. When she is done getting dressed with the basics, she has to deal with her hair and makeup. Fixing her hair and applying makeup can take up to a half hour and sometimes even longer, depending on if she needs to iron or blow her hair.

The next major dilemma she is faced with is which perfume she should wear. She likes her Calvin Klein perfume the best so she likes to save it for special occasions. However on this particular morning, she woke up in an awful mood and she is convinced that the only way she can pull out of this mood is by smelling her favorite perfume. She finally decides to put on her favorite Calvin Klein perfume to ensure that she will be in a good mood throughout the day. She then must choose the jewelry that best match the dress she chose. So many decisions must be made when getting dressed in the morning. If it were not for the poor husbands pressuring her to hurry, it could possibly take her the entire day to get dressed.

In conclusion, getting ready each morning is a tremendous hassle for most women. If your wife is one of these women, realize that it is not just your wife with these issues. It is actually most women in the world. Be patient with her and accept for the way she is. There is nothing more appreciated than a sincere compliment from her husband.

Brazilian Style Tips - Brazilian Bikini Tips

You can't miss out these Brazilian bikini tips.

To look good in swimming wear, the first and most important tip is to be self-confident of yourself, especially of your body. It does not matter if you are a bit overweight or if you are a normal human and have some cellulite. Being confident of your body will always make you look good. Because in the end its more about personality.

Choosing a bikini suitable to your structure can enhance certain parts of your body and minimize others and make you feel great.

Follow these tips and find out what kind of bikini is more favorable for your structure and enhances the beauty of your body.

Whatever your style or budget, the options for bikinis are innumerable and you just have to find the perfect sexy suit to fit your personality.

Brazilian Bikinis
Brazilian bikinis are always in style. And you can find different models but the traditional and well know Brazilian bikini has the Triangle Top and Side Tie Bottoms.

Triangle Tops
Triangle tops are a great selection to consider since you can cover as much or as little as you please. It's perfect for all breast sizes.

Side Tie Bottoms
Side tie bottoms offer an adjustable fit with a little flair. There are many variations of this style and all of them have the will to make you feel more sexy and attract attention from everyone around you. Abuse it! It was never out of fashion!

Choosing a bikini color
Color may not be the first thing a woman thinks of when shopping for a bathing suit, but it should be up there on the list.

The choices for a bathing are vast. So check out the color tips to make you look more gorgeous!

Bikini Color Tips to make yourself look even better

· 1- Minimize with black. If you have a bulge or two that you wish to cover up, black is classically the best color to minimize the larger parts of your body.

· 2- Add emphasis with color. If you wish to make it look like your breasts are bigger than they are, or if you wish to emphasize a certain part of your body, use bright flashy colors. A top with bright colors will add the illusion of a larger cup size, or it can be used to plump up a skimpy rump.

· 3- Conceal large breasts with light colors. Choose pastels or creamy colors for a larger chest. These colors will help de-emphasize larger cup sizes, but be sure that every top you buy has enough support to prevent them from sagging.

· 4- Go for bright colored, vertical stripes. Bright vertical stripes will help lengthen shorter frames. If you wish to lengthen your legs, try bright stripes on the bottom and pick a bright print on top.

· 5- Choose dark blocks of color for a slimming one piece bathing suit. When you don't feel comfortable in a bikini, and wish to slim down your look in a one piece, go for dark blocks or patches of color. These will help draw they eye to the colors and not the bulges.

Very Helpful Tips To Avoid Wardrobe Malfunctions

If I recall the innumerous accounts when I have been embarrassed because something went wrong with my attire, I could write a book on it. Anyway I never got to writing a book but I definitely started writing blogs to help my mates around the globe with some great tips that they can use. The prom season being around everyone has either got their dress or have atleast begun the process of finding their prom dress.

So while each of us must try to attain the perfect fitting dress one can never help if the dress decides to act badly.

If you are wearing a strapless dress, just stick some double sided sticking tape underneath the neckline. There is a very famous story of a girl who was walking down the stairway and tripped on her dress and fell down. When she got up to her surprise one of her boobs had fallen out. I am sure you don't wish to start off your prom like this. A double sided sticking tape will hold your neckline in place avoiding such mishaps.
I once wore these awesome strappy dress with a really low back to a party.

 However, I fell ill and lost a huge amount of weight. After that when I wore the dress it looked quite good from the front but the straps kept falling off and Instead of mingling I was adjusting those all evening. Unfortunately, I could not do much. But try avoiding too much weight fluctuations and if that happens fall back on an alternative. You can always unveil the dress at some other party.

The funniest wardrobe mishaps are those when you can see girls wearing beautiful white dresses with their colored underwear peeping through. So remember to always wear nude underwear with invisible hem lines.
If you plan to wear a dress with sleeves and you are the kind who sweats a lot get those underarm pads. All you need to do is stick those on the stitching of the cuff line and it will soak all your sweat. As a precaution use them two weeks before the event so that you can test if you are allergic to it and get proper treatment for it. This is a great way to avoid wet looking under arms.

Over the years I have gone through some of these mishaps or seen other girls go through the same. I have learned through experience some of the small things that we can avoid by just have plain foresight. So my experience will be of great help to you and making you the shining star in your prom dress. So keep some safety pins, a small needle and thread and a double sided sticking tape always handy. They are more useful in your purse than your make-up.

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Women's Fitness Gym Workout

Many women's fitness programs may have not been able to keep their promises like Curves fitness workout. A lot of women who visit the fitness center say that it is worth the money they pay. The main aim of the center is to keep women motivated and on the move.

 If you are fond of eating and have gained weight as a result, it can be really demoralizing. At this center you can shed all of that and gain your confidence back.

Curves is one of the very popular women's fitness centers and offers innovative and effective workout regimes especially for the busy women. It provides an opportunity for women who have strayed from being shapely to get back into shape. Losing those extra pounds may not be so difficult as getting the time to focus on it.

However, you do not any longer need to have a lot of time so that you can get back to shape. Invest a little time at this innovative gym and you can experience a new you every time.

If you have been at home for long, taking care of family, it may be that you didn't get enough time to go to the gym. With this fitness center you do not need to invest a lot of time either. Their 30 minutes workout regime is all that you need to shed those extra pounds and get back into shape. The main attraction at this fitness center is that you can be in and out of the gym in 30 minutes. So, even if you have never worked out in a gym before, you don't need to feel intimidated. This fitness center will absorb only a little time of your day, which you can afford. Fitness is very important and you must get some amount of exercise every day to keep yourself fit.

You may be busy with work or with taking care of your family and may not find time to focus too much on yourself. This fitness center lets you steal just a little time from your busy schedule and invest on yourself. Their 30 minutes workout regime is vigorous and enough for a busy woman to spend every day. The staff here is very friendly and assists anyone who may have some doubts about their regime or anything related to the women's gym.

Time is a big factor in today's world. Everybody is pressed for time and hence taking out even an hour for the gym can be troublesome. With this fitness center you do not even have to spare one whole hour. Their 30 minutes work out regime helps you get back into shape. They have designed this women's gym especially for the busy women so that they can have the gymming experience. They provide the perfect work out for the busy woman who visits the fitness center to lose weight, to tone up, relieve stress and also to strengthen their bones.

When you work out at this center, you can benefit from it in many ways. Weight loss is not the only good effect that you will see. You will feel a lot fresher and vibrant once out of the gym. Women, who work out at this fitness center regularly, can experience a much higher quality of life. They can experience more energy levels and feel happier everyday. If you have desired to have a skin like a baby, then you can join this fitness center for best results.

Exercise has always had good effect on your health - both mental and physical. With the fitness program, you can now achieve what you have been dreaming of all these years but couldn't find the time to do so.
 

Fashion Tips For Women - What to Do If You Get a Run in Your Nylons

What would you do if you found a run in your tights, knee highs, or stockings?

The easiest thing to do would be to buy a new pair. But, if you are low on cash, you can fix your tights up yourself. All you need is a little bit of clear nail polish and that should do the trick. Any brand of clear nail polish should do. You can purchase clear nail polish from drug stores like CVS and Rite Aid. You just run the clear nail polish along the line in your tights and the polish will glue the run in the tights back together.

Tights are an article of clothing a woman cannot live without. Knee highs and thigh highs are especially comfortable if you don't like the feeling of a huge elastic band around your waist. Wearing full length tights can be a bit bothersome and especially if you are wearing them throughout the day, and in the office, it can start to feel like it is cutting off your circulation. You can wear knee highs and thigh highs with long and short skirts and dresses. They can be found in the colors black, beige, brown, and just a clear material.

Some women have multiple pairs of tights so they don't run into the problem of having many runs and nothing to wear. You can usually buy a pack of knee highs or thigh highs for just a few dollars at many women's clothing shops. Stockings are thicker tights, and they are an article of women's clothing that can be worn in the winter time and colder parts of the year. Stockings can be found at many clothing shops like Marshalls, Ross, and JC Penny. You can also find tights at shoe shops.

If you are creative, you can wear tights in different patterns. You can find kids' tights with heart patterns, balloons, smiley faces, and flowers. Women's tights usually come in simple patterns like stripes and circles, and you can find argyle tights as well.

If you wear your nylons frequently, they may get runs in them so you may just have to replace them if you wear them on a daily basis. You can also sew your tights up with a needle and thread if you are the crafty type. If you have thread that is the same color as your tights, this could work. But, you don't want to sew up your tights if you only have red thread, for instance, and your tights are black. If you don't mind spending the time sewing and want to save a few bucks, this might be a good option for you.

Women wear tights on a daily basis so it is good to know how to take care of them if they are giving you trouble. You can either throw them out (which is the easiest option), fix them up with some clear nail polish, or sew them with a needle and thread. Good luck with those tights!

Women's Fashion Tips - 4 Steps to Put Together a Great Outfit

Are you getting tired of your wardrobe and need to spruce things up a bit? Maybe you already have some nice items in your wardrobe but just can't seem to put a great new outfit together. There are a few things you can keep in mind when trying to put a new outfit together.

First of all, you want to be organized so you can see what sort of clothes you have to work with in your closet. Then, you want to find a main article of clothing to base the rest of the accessories around. This article of clothing should be something that accentuates your best features. Lastly, you want to be creative.

If you want to put together a great outfit, you have to start off by organizing your closet. You can do this by color coding your closet. Simply put all dark colors together and all lighter colors together. You should separate skirts, from dresses, sweaters, clubwear, and pants. If you don't own many dresses, or clubwear for that matter, you can push them off a bit to the side. By organizing your closet like this, it will be easier to see what you are dealing with to make a new outfit for yourself.

You need to find a main article of clothing for your outfit. This can be a suit, dress, or even a skirt and sweater set. If it is the black dress you have chosen, that is a great option! You can do so much with a simple black dress.

You should ask yourself, does this dress accentuate my best features? If you especially like your arms, or your legs, does the dress high light these features? If you have a big tummy, does the dress hide the tummy or does it make it look even rounder? These questions are essential to ask yourself when putting together a new outfit.

Creativity is also an essential ingredient in putting together a great outfit. The black dress alone may be very stylish, but it would be fun to add some accessories to it. Maybe you have a fashionable belt to put around it. Or maybe even a pair of great black heels. You can add such a variety of things to a black dress. You can wear a necklace, earrings, bracelet alone or paired together with the dress. You may also want to consider if you will be wearing tights or knee highs with the dress. A cute headband, pair of sunglasses, or hat can give your black dress a whole new look.

Whatever main article of clothing you choose to use, it should reflect your personality. If you are a more conservative person, you may not want your main article of clothing to be a red dress. If you have more of a funky fashion sense, you want your main article of clothing to be a little less conservative. Whatever you decide to do, putting together an outfit should be fun and not a stressful activity.